“If you are looking for the love of your life, stop. They will be waiting for you when you start doing things you love.”  This happened to me. I was looking for about 30 years I reckon (from 15 to 45 years old). I tried all sorts of things to meet someone, especially in those latter years. Latin dancing classes, yoga, internet dating, you name it.  As it happened I’d been trying to figure out what to do with my life for most of that period as well. Three decades! Two of those decades watching friends get married, have kids, and forge (supposedly) successful careers.  Then in my mid-40’s I realised the time I was spending on ‘RSVP’ (an Australian internet dating service) was a waste of time and that I’d be much better off putting it into the new career I thought was beyond my reach.  I re-fashioned my career as an environmental journalist (from that of a university lecturer in advertising). I started a podcast called The Environment Show which became the number one environment podcast in Australia and a radio show on 2SER (Sydney Educational Radio). It was a big change for me, but I loved it. It took an enormous amount of work, but it didn’t feel like work. Then at 47 I was walking up the street one night and there she was. Lisa, the artist, in her studio next to the Thai food place (where I picked up my lonely guy dinner). I saw her closing up shop. She’d left her sign out on the street, so I knocked on the window to let her know. “Oops, yes, I tend to do that,” she came out and said. “I’m a bit vague.” I remember that first conversation—how easy it was, and warm and gentle. Like I’d known this person all my life. As I walked away I thought to myself: “Hmm, that was a good sign.” (I have a tendency for vagueness too). And sure enough that was it. The start of our relationship 3 years ago.  Who would have thought I’d meet my soulmate and be living with her above her shop? After decades of trying and failing in love. The catalyst was when I started doing what I loved. When I became happy with myself—who I was and where I was heading. So that’s my advice for you too. In another strange twist of fate, I found the Holstee Manifesto (and was struck by the love bit) when I was researching a cycling project - in what is effectively a business mission statement of all things.  If you’re starting a project or business yourself there’s also a lesson in Holstee’s success I reckon. And that is to really go for it and create something that’s different, that’s really you, and that helps and inspires other people.  Lisa and I are creating a couple of great little businesses together now. Holstee has given us a jolt of inspiration on that front as well. This part of the Manifesto is all too true for us too: “Life is about the people you meet and the things you create with them.” 

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Our Themes

Distilled from our Manifesto, positive psychology, the science of mindfulness, and ancient philosophic studies we have identified twelve themes core to living both fully and mindfully. We mapped these twelve themes to each of the twelve months in a year. Together with our community we explore one each month.


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