Through our Reflections series we share nuggets of wisdom from our ongoing research for the Holstee Membership as well as personal experiences that have changed how we see the world.
September 23, 2017

Let her speak.

A post first appeared in my Facebook newsfeed a while ago, and it recently came to mind again. I searched for it and re-read it and got goosebumps again just as I did the first time I encountered it.

I recommend reading the full story from Marilee Talkington here.

Talkington shares an experience she had at the 2017 World Science Festival in New York City. She sat in the audience of a high-profile panel discussion among some of the greatest minds in Cosmology, String Theory, and Physics-based Philosophy. It was a panel made up of five men and one woman.

Throughout the panel, Talkington became increasingly upset as she notices that Veronika Hubeny, a female theoretical physicist, is barely given a chance to share her views. In fact, when Hubeny is finally posed a question, the moderator proceeds to interrupt and speak over her rather than let her speak for herself.

For Talkington, this is the last straw.

She writes:

“So at this point, after seeing very clearly that she was not going to be given space to speak and in fact having her own theories described to the audience by the moderator, I am in full outrage.

My body is actually beginning to shake.

The sexism is beyond blatant.

It is happening on stage and NO ONE, not a single other physicist or panelist is stepping in to say anything about it.

And I can hear other audience members around me, both men and women becoming more and more agitated with what is happening. Jim Holt, even at one point, asks Veronica a question and she laughs because he has been answering his own questions about her work...and he makes fun of her for 'giggling'.

So at some point while he is still talking about Her theories, I just can't handle it any longer.

With my hands shaking, I finally say from my seat in the 2nd row of the audience, as clearly, directly and loudly as possible;

"Let. Her. Speak. Please!"

The moderator stops.

They all stop.

The auditorium drops into silence.

You could hear a pin drop.

​And then the audience explodes with applause and screams.”

Wow. What a powerful account of one woman standing up for another.

And for me, it’s a reminder to be an ally for those whose voices aren't heard. Not to speak for them, but to actively create the space so they can speak for themselves.

Dave Radparvar
Co-Founder, Holstee

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January 07, 2018

Life goals.

“Your audacious life goals are fabulous. We're proud of you for having them. But it's possible that those goals are designed to distract you from the thing that's really frightening you — the shift in daily habits that would mean a re–invention of how you see yourself.” - Seth Godin I was recently reflecting on what success looks like in my life. If I were to die in a week, a year, or a few decades, what would it take for me to be able to say, “Well, I did it — I accomplished everything I wanted. I lived a...


October 17, 2017


These days, I am finding myself wrapped up in the news — devastating tragedies, one after another.

My mind is filled with questions. Why would someone do this? How could it be possible? Why does it keep happening? What can be done now? The questions don’t seem to end.

I recently reached a point at which I was



October 03, 2017

Sandwich of the future.

I love sandwiches — both making and eating them. So when I heard that there was a famous man in Syracuse, Sicily, who makes just a few dozen sandwiches a day and has a constant line out the door, my interest peaked.

Turns out he doesn’t just make sandwiches but he



September 28, 2017

Wait till you see the flowers by the pool.

September 2015 was a big month for us.

I was about to get married, Dave was turning 30, and our third co-founder, Fabian, was about to start a new project after eight years of working with us on Holstee.

So at the very last minute, we decided to go on a combo bachelor-birthday-send-off weekend trip. We booked the only place we could find that was near nature and had availability that night. We borrowed a car and made our way north up Route 28 out of New York City.

When we arrived at the bungalow we’d booked, we looked around. Without saying anything, we knew exactly what one another was thinking



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