Through our Reflections series we share nuggets of wisdom from our ongoing research for the Holstee Membership as well as personal experiences that have changed how we see the world.
October 29, 2018

Release the tension.

I was thinking recently about tension.

First, the literal concept of tension — how a rope gets tense when it’s pulled in opposite directions. The greater the distance or force between the two ends, the tighter the rope gets.

Then, I started thinking about the tension in my life — the stress of feeling pushed and pulled by what is and what could be. I realized that the tensions are similar.

If I am stressed about something, it’s usually because there’s a gap between my desired state and my reality. The further the distance between those two states, the less tranquil I feel. Instead, I feel stressed, twisted, and wound up.

But similar to rope, there is no tension if the force from one side stops. So if I can acknowledge a wishful thought and recognize the desire in it, I can see that thought for what it is without being overtaken by it. I can let go of the “desire” side of my internal rope and be at peace with my reality.

Releasing one end of the rope doesn’t mean we give up. But rather, we acknowledge the desire without letting it pull, or consume us. We can still strive for what could be, while being at peace with what is.

Perhaps when we let go, our desired state will stop pulling away.

Perhaps without feeling the need to pull away, it may even float in our direction.

To letting go (but not giving up),

Dave Radparvar
Co-Founder, Holstee

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January 07, 2018

Life goals.

“Your audacious life goals are fabulous. We're proud of you for having them. But it's possible that those goals are designed to distract you from the thing that's really frightening you — the shift in daily habits that would mean a re–invention of how you see yourself.” - Seth Godin I was recently reflecting on what success looks like in my life. If I were to die in a week, a year, or a few decades, what would it take for me to be able to say, “Well, I did it — I accomplished everything I wanted. I lived a...


October 17, 2017


These days, I am finding myself wrapped up in the news — devastating tragedies, one after another.

My mind is filled with questions. Why would someone do this? How could it be possible? Why does it keep happening? What can be done now? The questions don’t seem to end.

I recently reached a point at which I was



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