Living in a world where the word crisis is widespread, there’s nothing to do but questioning why everything is going so wrong.

And God knows how hard it is to look at other people and the society without judgment. But I believe that after getting used to live in such a critical environment I have found a way to substitute judgment for curiosity.

“Be curious, not judgmental.” – Walt Whitman

Before mastering the ability of exchanging the judgmental behavior for the curious persona when analyzing the external world, I had to make numerous trips to my inner universe, where I came across a more tolerant self, as if someone strange to me was living in my inner side.

This was when I started to get curious about myself.

The first steps of my journey were full of prejudice. I didn’t like that non-judgmental territory at all. Watching the world and not having an opinion about things was like eating and not feeling the flavors. But then I started to realize that there’s much more in observing and letting be than arrive in a new, undiscovered place and already have a formed, inflexible impression over all. And the first person to be benefited with that curiosity was me!

Now, every time I stumble upon that me who first labels other people´s choices and ways of life I remember that is much more interesting looking inside of me with curiosity, so empathy will take over the situation and throw judgment away.


Felipe Valente is a copywriter and scriptwriter from Brazil who wants to discover how people can cooperate with each other by telling stories about their differences and, from that, finding the goodness that lives inside everyone.

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