It happened to me recently. And it happens to so many of us at some point in our lives.

You create something beautiful — so beautiful that you want to share it with the world.

And you do (because you are brave... or had a glass of wine 😉).

You were right. It is beautiful, and your friends (and even some strangers!) tell you so. YES! You are creative.

You are a dreamer, but you are also a doer — and this time you did it!

But then, a hater (s)trolls in with an, “Eh really… is that what you have been spending your last month on?”


All the light and energy from compliments and encouragement are covered in a cloud of shade. Your heart feels like a black hole and you wish your body could disappear into it.

WAIT. Before you crumble from the inside out.

Take a moment.

Take a moment for yourself.

First, remember you are not your work. You can love what you do, but you are not what you do. You aren’t your work, you are its creator — and its protector. Stand tall. You have created and that’s more than most can say.

Now, let’s take a moment for the hater. Yup. The hater. Gather the energy from every corner of your body. Think about all your cells and fill them with love, the same type of love you have for your best friend. Now gather all that love in your heart and imagine sending it directly to that hater.

You see, the hater hates because they were once like you. But way back when, some other hater hated on them. And now they can never do what you have done. They stopped trying to create and they lost the courage to share.

They need some of what you’ve got.

Eventually, with enough love, that hater will remember how powerful and delicate the act of creating is.

We are born with the wisdom to live well and live with love. But sometimes we forget. Every month in our membership, we focus on the values we know are important but often don’t remember.

Sign up for the Holstee Membership today.

And never stop creating.

Dave Radparvar
Co-Founder, Holstee

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