“Hatred cannot co-exist with loving-kindness and dissipates if supplanted with thoughts based on loving-kindness.” - Buddha

Not only is this a powerful thought, but it’s also backed by science.

Dr. Robert Emmons, a professor of psychology, has dedicated much of his career to researching the science of Gratitude. Emmons builds on this sentiment by saying:

“You cannot be grateful and resentful at the same time, or forgiving and vengeful. When we are savoring the moment, we cannot be regretting the past.”

His point here refers to a phenomenon known as “emotional incompatibility”, which suggests that we are not able to experience opposing emotions in the same moment.

I like to think of it this way: when you have a heart full of gratitude, it can be a forcefield against negativity.

How does this theory hold up in the laboratory of your own mind?

Mike Radparvar
Co-Founder, Holstee

P.S. Emmons is just one of the great minds whose work inspired our Gratitude Guide. We link to his original works as well as those of other thinkers like Melanie Greenberg Ph.D. and Brother David Steindl-Rast in our Curated Resources on Gratitude.

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