“I did the dishes every night this week; you just left yours in the sink.”Tweet It!
“The last three times he invited me out for coffee, I picked up the tab.”
“I put 10 hours of work into the project. You only put in two.”
It’s easy to keep score in our relationships — to quantify our actions.
But after a while, things that we might normally do out of generosity and love, we start to do with resentment. And when we act out of resentment, no one wins.
The “favor” you did doesn’t help your relationship if you are looking for something in return.
Whenever I think of infinite generosity, I think of two things:
1. The first is my parents, who have given me life, love, and so much more without ever asking for anything in return.
2. The second is this quote from the Persian poet Hafez:
Lucky for us, the sun isn’t keeping score.
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