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October 06, 2017

Being interested is interesting.

“We need to listen consciously in order to live fully.” - Julian Treasure

In his TED Talk “Five Ways to Listen Better”, sound expert Julian Treasure makes the case for listening with intention.

It’s a skill I’ve only recently begun to value.

For the longest time, I thought that to have a meaningful conversation, I needed to have wildly riveting stories to share.

I was missing half the equation.

Think about the best conversation you’ve had this week. Chances are, it was with a truly active listener — meaning they gave you their full attention, could summarize back the key points you made, and reserved any advice or points for after they had asked some delightfully thoughtful questions.

It's tempting to jump in and interrupt someone’s story as soon as their words trigger a memory or thought of my own. It’s something I’m working on myself. But I also know how great it feels to be on the receiving end of a person who is consciously listening.

It turns out that in conversations and in life, it’s far more important to be interested than it is to be interesting.

Listen, be curious, ask questions, and let the riveting story unfold as a joint masterpiece.

Mike Radparvar
Co-Founder, Holstee

P.S. By listening with empathy, we can cultivate Compassion — one of the 12 themes we’ve identified as being key to a life well-lived. Learn more about this and other mindful values through our Holstee Membership →

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